“I never give them hell. I just tell the truth and they think it’s hell.”

17 Apr

 

“O you who believe! Be afraid of Allaah, and be with those who are true (in word and deeds).” [al-Tawbah 9:119]

Ibn Katheer (may Allaah have mercy on him) said (2/414): “It means: be truthful and adhere to truthfulness, and you will be among its people and will be saved from calamity, and this will make a way out for you from your problems.”

‘Abd-Allaah ibn Mas’ood (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: “The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘You must be truthful, for truthfulness leads to righteousness and righteousness leads to Paradise. A man will keep speaking the truth and striving to speak the truth until he will be recorded with Allaah as a siddeeq (speaker of the truth). Beware of telling lies, for lying leads to immorality and immorality leads to Hellfire. A man will keep telling lies and striving to tell lies until he is recorded with Allaah as a liar.” (Reported by Muslim, 4721)

“Do not trouble yourselves about standards or ideals; but try to be faithful and natural: remember that there is no greatness, no beauty, which does not come from truth to your own knowledge of things; and keep on working, even if your work is not long remembered.”
William Dean Howells, Literature and Life, Entire

7 Responses to ““I never give them hell. I just tell the truth and they think it’s hell.””

  1. Maverick April 21, 2007 at 1:38 am #

    I agree … but then again isn’t it also advised that: “It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it.” ?
    🙂

  2. Umm Khawla April 21, 2007 at 9:00 am #

    Saheeh.. but sometimes, its better to be harsh and get your message across instead of softening down the truth and not getting your message across which has its own consequences.. and may even have a long term (negative) effect on the other party (ones you’re relaying the message to).

    I think it depends on who you’re dealing with and the urgency of it. Sometimes we take too long mellowing the truth.. and by the time we convey it, it has little to no affect.

  3. Amera August 20, 2009 at 3:08 pm #

    Can you give examples of when you think its neccessary to tell the truth Islamically? I mean I tend to think the truth is neccessary if it’s within your Islamic rights to convey. For example if you are being treated unjustly, it is your right to stand up towards injustice. Can you give me more examples, please and thank you.

    • Abu Sabaya August 20, 2009 at 5:12 pm #

      In the sense of speaking out, this is enjoining the good and preventing the bad (الأمر بالمعروف و النهي عن المنكر). It’s quite simple, in that any time you see something unjust or wrong taking place on a personal or societal level, you are obliged to change it – either physically prevent, speak out verbally, or at the very least detest it.

      What people lack most in is speaking the truth on a personal level. If you see someone (a friend, a family member, etc.) doing something wrong or haram – such as smoking, swearing, committing zina, not wearing hijab, not praying, or whatever the case may be – it is your personal obligation to try to change that because nobody is in a better position than you to do that.

      People often try to avoid this because they don’t want to cause rifts in their relationships with others, like to keep things pleasant, etc. and this is wrong. Sufyan ath-Thawri used to urinate blood out of anger with himself when he’d pass up a chance to speak the truth and correct something in front of him.

      • Umm Khawla August 21, 2009 at 1:53 pm #

        BaarakAllaahu feek br. Abu Sabaya.

        “People often try to avoid this because they don’t want to cause rifts in their relationships with others, like to keep things pleasant, etc. and this is wrong. Sufyan ath-Thawri used to urinate blood out of anger with himself when he’d pass up a chance to speak the truth and correct something in front of him.”

        ^ subhan’Allaah, this is something that definitely needs to be stressed on.

        Another thing that’s also common, is not just NOT speaking the truth, but downplaying the sin (whatever the sin maybe).

        Waffaqanallaah limaa yuhibbuh wa yardhah.

  4. Amera August 21, 2009 at 5:04 pm #

    Thank Abu Sabaya and Umm Khawla, both your responses are extremely helpful. May Allah reward you both, especially when finding difficulty in this matter since you are helping others. Ameen. I agree with Umm Khawla that the the above should be stressed. I think its important because people need to focus on pleasing Allah and not the people. If you are worried about maintaining a pleasent relationship, and avoid speaking the truth; one must question whether they are in a relationship for the sake of Allah, or in the relationship for the sake of the relationship.

  5. Indefinable August 24, 2009 at 9:57 am #

    Jzk ukhtee!

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