When feelings are hurt..

Al-Bukhari recorded that Usamah bin Zayd said that Allaah’s Messenger sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam rode a donkey with a saddle covered by a velvet sheet and let Usamah ride behind him (on the donkey). The Prophet sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam wanted to visit Sa`d bin `Ubadah in Bani al-Harith bin al-Khazraj, and this occurred before the battle of Badr. The Prophet sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam passed by a gathering in which `Abdullah bin Ubayy bin Salul was sitting, before `Abdullah bin Ubayy became Muslim. That gathering was made up of various Muslims as well as Mushriks, who worshipped the idols, and some Jews. `Abdullah bin Rawahah was sitting in that gathering. When the Prophet reached `Abdullah bin Ubayy, the donkey caused some sand to fall on the group. Then, `Abdullah bin Ubayy covered his nose with his robe and said, `Do not fill us with sand.’ The Messenger of Allaah sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam greeted the gathering with Salam, called them to Allaah and recited some of the Qur’aan to them.

`Abdullah bin Ubayy said, “O fellow! No other speech is better than what you said, if it was true! However, do not bother us in our gatherings. Go back to your place and whoever came to you, narrate your stories to him.”

`Abdullah bin Rawahah said, “Rather, O Messenger of Allaah! Attend our gatherings for we like that.” The Muslims, Mushriks and Jews then cursed each other, and they almost fought with each other. The Prophet sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam tried to calm them down, until they finally settled. The Prophet sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam rode his donkey and went to Sa`d bin `Ubadah, saying, “O Sa`d! Have you heard what Abu Hubbab said (meaning `Abdullah bin Ubayy) He said such and such things.” Sa`d said, “O Messenger of Allaah! Forgive and pardon him. By Allaah, Who sent down the Book to you, Allaah brought us the truth that you came with at a time when the people of this city almost appointed him king. When Allaah changed all that with the truth that He gave you, he choked on it, and this is the reason behind the behavior you saw from him.

Allaah said,

وَلَتَسْمَعُنَّ مِنَ الَّذِينَ أُوتُواْ الْكِتَـبَ مِن قَبْلِكُمْ وَمِنَ الَّذِينَ أَشْرَكُواْ أَذًى كَثِيراً

“And you shall certainly hear much that will grieve you from those who received the Scripture before you (Jews and Christians) and from those who ascribe partners to Allaah.” [3:186]

Therefore, every person who stands for truth, enjoins righteousness and forbids evil, will be harmed in some manner. In such cases, there is no cure better than being patient in Allaah’s cause, trusting in Him and returning to Him.

– Tafseer Ibn Katheer.

If the Prophet of Allaah sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam wasn’t spared of this, then who are we? And one of the reasons why the above narration touched me so much was the fact that many of us face this kind of trouble from not just non-Muslims but Muslims themselves.  So the next time your feelings are hurt, or someone says something awful to or about you, just remember the seerah of Rasool Allaah sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam: Forgive and forget. Truly, Allaah is on the side of the truthful and the patient.

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